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Hi everyone! How have you been? Today I was helping my friend to choose baby clothes for her nephew. Tears fall from my cheeks when I was looking at all those cute little clothes. I can’t help but wonder if I'll ever buy any. After trying for so long, deep inside me the hope is gone. BUT my heart won’t let me stop dreaming. I’ve thought about giving up so many times… But my heart says NO! It hurts so bad to see women all around me with big belly's. I think to myself "I bet that she didn’t have to try very long." Oh what I would give just to see my baby’s eyes. Today my friend told me "Maybe there’re just no more babies for you." How can she say that to me? Her words broke my heart. With all the little hope that’s left she blows it all away. I’ve had so many dreams of giving birth. I’ve actually realized in one of my dreams that I was dreaming. But those dreams give me hope. My DH lies next to me every night and wipes the tears away. He doesn’t ask me anymore for the reason that I’m crying. He knows! I don’t know how much longer we can do this. When is it time to give up? We have names picked out already. I’ve bought diapers, wipes, lotions, even newborn clothes. My husband doesn’t know about the clothes BTW. I think he would get mad at me. I don’t think he understand… What can I do except pray every night for a little one? My faith is wearing thin. Somehow part of me believes that one day my prayers will be answered with YES. Good luck and lots of baby dust to all of you precious women. I pray for all of you every night. I hope we all will be mothers one day.
Your post breaks my heart, especially since I can relate so much. After trying for 9 years myself, I can understand how hope starts to dwindle. At the same time it's very difficult to give up completely when the desire to be a mom is buried deep within our soul. I have days where I feel like I have to keep trying and days I feel like I want to just give up. For some reason today I just don't want to do this anymore. We had multiple failed ivfs and I’m exhausted. I too am so sad when I look at pregnant women. All my friends are pregnant and some are even on their 2nd. But we all started trying for #1 at the same time… The strain on my marriage is unbelievable. We've actually talked about divorcing… And the effect on everything in my life is sometimes just unbearable. I am not sure how to get through it but to just take it one day at a time. Be good to yourself.
Please don’t give up! Especially when you have such a lovely husband. The more you are worried /no hope you are stressing your body out. So please take one at a time. Don’t give up hun though I know sometimes it might be hard. I am very sure you will be surprised by little one or twins very soon! Some things can’t happen fast. We need to wait for them and believe. Things always happen for a reason... For a very good reason... Don’t be sat because of what your friend told you. There ARE babies for you! Unfortunately some ppl don’t understand that words can hurt. We shouldn’t listen to those who make rude comments. Let’s just believe it will happen for us!
Hey, my dear @Heckfranky56,
Good love you, poor thing, you're having tough times. I'm sorry your friend is this unsympathetic. Unfortunately, there are too little compassionate people nowadays. and what's worse, everyone pretends to be a fertility expert! - Not knowing even a day!! of the infertiles' lives..This pains much, honey, so unfair. But nothing is left to us, only faith. I'd been in the same boat for long years. I know how lapo is passed (we counted on this option three times, but each time it grew back). I was through chemicals and bfns. I suffered a dreadful mc, when I lost my first ever kid..I know how donor eggs are used. I know the inner struggle of ''what if my baby won't look like me? What if someone tells him he's not mine (I'll definitely tell him about DE but when time comes..And there are so many people tending to make harm, aren't they..So this is my another nightmare..)I'm just a couple of days after delivery. we had to travel abroad, to Kiev to undergo our DE IVF shot (more reasonable prices and truly good services) but have nothing to regret about now when we're nursing our little one. I'm praying for you to experience the joy of motherhod soon. Do not give up, love. And keep away from ''friends'' telling you ''No baby for you''.
I'm hoping for you xx
Alexduncan0704 wrote:
Your post breaks my heart, especially since I can relate so much. After trying for 9 years myself, I can understand how hope starts to dwindle. At the same time it's very difficult to give up completely when the desire to be a mom is buried deep within our soul. I have days where I feel like I have to keep trying and days I feel like I want to just give up. For some reason today I just don't want to do this anymore. We had multiple failed ivfs and I’m exhausted. I too am so sad when I look at pregnant women. All my friends are pregnant and some are even on their 2nd. But we all started trying for #1 at the same time… The strain on my marriage is unbelievable. We've actually talked about divorcing… And the effect on everything in my life is sometimes just unbearable. I am not sure how to get through it but to just take it one day at a time. Be good to yourself.

I'm sorry to hear about your multiple IVF failures. and about the whole situation you're currently facing..
We all know,the chances of giving birth to a healthy baby after using IVF depend on various factors.
The younger you are, the more likely you are to get pregnant and give birth to a healthy baby using your own eggs during IVF. Women age 41 and older are often counseled to consider using donor eggs during IVF to increase the chances of success.
Then transfer of embryos that are more developed is associated with higher pregnancy rates compared with less developed embryos (day two or three). However, not all embryos survive the development process. Talk with your doctor about your specific situation.
In fact, the whole reproductive history here cannot be omitted. Doctors say that women who've previously given birth are more likely to be able to get pregnant using IVF than are women who've never given birth. Success rates are lower for women who've previously used IVF multiple times but didn't get pregnant.
Finally, cause of infertility. Having a normal supply of eggs increases your chances of being able to get pregnant using IVF. For example, women who have severe endometriosis are less likely to be able to get pregnant using IVF than are women who have unexplained infertility. And other factors..
I'm sorry your doctor hasn't invented yet the ''perfect plan for you''. Give yourself time to recover. Heal well physically and emotionally to think of other possible options. Also this could give you some of the ideas~
''@@clinic offers patients who are above 40 and for those, who suffer from low levels of AMH, an innovative program that makes it possible to get pregnant with their own eggs. Mitochondria replacement therapy is an innovation and a breakthrough in the field of ART and the fertility treatment. This program gives women, who underwent numerous unsuccessful IVF cycles, aged 40+, patients with low mitochondrial functional activity, an excellent chance to give birth to a child who shares a genetic relationship with her and her partner. Mitochondrion is one of the most important components of any living cell, including the egg. In simple words, mitochondrion is the cell’s energy station. Essentially, its work consists in supplying the cell with vital energy for its normal functioning. Women that went through multiple unsuccessful IVF attempts, as well as of older reproductive age, need to restore oocyte mitochondria in order to successfully become pregnant. A woman can become pregnant only if there are functionally active mitochondria in her oocytes. Donation of mitochondria will allow thousands of hopeless women to give birth to a healthy child through IVF using mitochondrial donation....Mitochondria donation is a unique assistive reproductive technology, which is basically the implantation of a healthy and functionally active donor mitochondria into the cells of an infertile patient, that provides the patient’s cell with the necessary energy and contributes to successful pregnancy.''
Also donor egg and surrogacy as the options to count on.
May god help you.
Milasmithsss wrote:
Hello honey! I'm sorry ttc became complicated for you. I faced the same. The worst thing is that there is no way to figure out the stage at which the success is being constantly blocked… But one of the most common causes is the failure of embryo to attach to the uterus lining. This might happen due to problem with the embryo or problem with the uterus. And as usual, it cannot be determined for sure even by the experts. Genetic or chromosomal abnormalities can sometimes make the embryo too weak to implant properly. Embryo implantation rates are also higher in women near the age of 35. As you've been facing trouble conceiving for more than a year, it might be time considering looking for the possible options. Fertility specialists will help of course. They will study your medical state and offer you ways of treatments. Good luck to you, hun!

In certain situations, a fertility doctor may recommend other procedures before embryo transfer.
For example, assisted hatching. About five to six days after fertilization, an embryo "hatches" from its surrounding membrane. This allows it to implant into the lining of the uterus. If you're an older woman, or if you have had multiple failed IVF attempts, doctor might recommend assisted hatching. So this is a technique in which a hole is made in the zona pellucida just before transfer. It helps the embryo hatch and implant. Or the next path may be the following- Preimplantation genetic testing. Embryos develop in the incubator until they reach an appropriate stage. Then a small sample is removed and tested for specific genetic diseases or the correct number of chromosomes. (Typically after five to six days of development.) Only embryos that don't contain affected genes or chromosomes can be transferred to your uterus. While preimplantation genetic testing can reduce the likelihood that a parent will pass on a genetic problem, it can't eliminate the risk. So prenatal testing may still be recommended.
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