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I have a 2 year old that will not an has not had a full night sleep ever we don't know what is wrong or what to do anymore

Jane ...
Answer: Hi, There can be lots of reasons for toddlers not sleeping. Being unwell, hungry, having learned associations of needing feeding, to co sleep, dummy or going off to sleep with their parent's help are all common reasons. If he's never slept well and you're concerned about him, perhaps a review with your GP would be helpful. If there's no apparent physical reason why he's not sleeping then it could be due to behaviour. A chat with your Child Health Nurse would help to see if there's something you could change about your toddler's sleeping patterns. Consider too if he's comfortable, not cold and eating and drinking enough during the day to not be waking overnight due to hunger or thirst. If he's still having bottles now is the time to consider stopping them. Tooth decay happens for toddlers who suck on bottles of milk or juice. The other consideration is how you settle him in the first place and then, when he wakes, what you need to do to resettle him. If you are staying with him when he first goes to sleep or lying down with him then he's going to expect your same help when he wakes during the night. And remember, it's normal for all of us to wake fairly frequently overnight but have the skills to resettle without needing assistance. it's important to be realistic when expecting changes, be patient and kind but very consistent. The only thing which is in your control is your responses to his sleep and settling. He will look to you to have the same responses when he demands attention through the night. Check the Huggies site for more comprehensive information on sleep and settling management. Cheers Jane
Answered: 16 Sep 2017