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My nearly 3 year old hates going to bed and as soon as ive shut the door shes out running again with excuses to stay up i keep putting her back with minimal or no talk but she keeps doing it up to 20 times a night. I often cry at night but i cant handle i

Single mum and have full custody of my 2 year old daughter and see my 7 year old son in school holidays. Father of 2 year old isnt involved with her at all.

Jane ...
Answer: Hi, It does sound like you're struggling at the moment. Your strategies of not engaging her in conversation and taking her back to bed are sound. But perhaps she's fearful of having the door closed? Have you tried keeping it open but telling her that if she climbs out of bed you will close it? This can work surprisingly well as the child quickly works out that the parent is serious and the door being open the best option. The child tends to feel safer and more "in control" with this technique but it really depends on the parent being 100% consistent and following through on closing the door each and every time the child gets out of bed. Have you spoken with your CHN about a short stay in a residential centre? At three your toddler may not meet the age criteria but it's worth asking. And another helpful tip may be to enrol in a Triple P parenting course. These are often run at the local community health centres, so it's worth asking. If you're struggling emotionally then it's really important you speak with your GP. Perhaps you'd benefit from some sessions with a social worker or psychologist. There's so much help and support available for parents on their own like you. The first step is asking for it. Best Jane
Answered: 31 May 2015