Your baby will be a wriggling, busy, inquisitive and active little person at 8 months. They have learned that there is a whole world out there, just waiting to be touched and explored. Many parents find this a challenging age because although their baby has some mobility skills, they don’t have enough to keep them entertained for very long. They won’t want to be held all the time and will struggle to get down on the floor and have some freedom.
Frustration is a common emotion for little ones of this age. They see, they want, but the only problem is that they don’t have the means to get to where they want to go. Which means you will find yourself needing to interpret just what it is they are complaining about.
You are likely to hear your 8 month old develop a different range of cries now. Anger, protest and frustration will creep into their repertoire but will be balanced by episodes of true laughter and glee. Your skills in “reading” your baby will be growing each day and you’ll be finding you are going through your own stages of development and growth as well.
Your baby will be having at least 2 solid meals each day now, perhaps 3. Milk is still an important, primary food source which will help to fuel their growth. But solid foods will also help to supply them with additional nutrients and energy. If you are breastfeeding, you may find your baby does not want to feed as frequently as they used to and their hunger is being partially satisfied by their solid intake. It is still important that they have around 4 breastfeeds/day at 8 months. If you are bottle feeding 4 milk feeds is also ideal.
Your baby is likely to still need 2-3 day time sleeps of 1-3 hours. There will be more of a pattern to their daily routine and you will find it easier to work and plan around their feeds and sleeps now. A tired baby is a cranky baby and not much fun to be with. You are unlikely to want to be out when it is their sleep time and no matter how well intentioned you were before you had children that they would not alter your life too much, this age may be the turning point. Don’t fret, we all have times when we need to admit that perhaps, we have something to learn.
Your baby will be talking away to themselves now, practicing how noise is made and what it sounds like. They still won’t comprehend that what they say has any meaning, such as mama or dada. But with time and gentle, positive reinforcement from you, they will broaden their range of vocal skills and link intent, sound and meaning.
Make sure you involve them in household conversation and activity. Babies learn how to be social through their families and communities.
This month try to play games with them such as waving bye-bye, pat a cake, peek-a-boo and round and round the garden. These will all help develop early skills in communication and sequencing. Although they may seem simplistic, nursery rhymes and songs and even silly, made up games are vital in creating the early building blocks for learning and education.
This is a busy age and a time of discovery and wonder for babies. With increasing mobility comes access to all sorts of things in the house, so you’ll have to be extra observant when your baby is having floor time. Expect some early crawling skills this month and more competence with sitting independently. Perhaps your baby will creep or drag themselves across the floor or get where they want to go by rolling. They will be using all their limbs to get where they want to be but they still won’t be coordinated enough to get very far.
You baby will be able to bear some weight on their legs and may even be standing for short periods of time. You could find them standing in their cot this month, thinking they are oh so clever. They are likely to protest with frustration when they can’t reach a toy they want or something unsafe is taken away from them. Remember, it is from challenges that their skills will grow and be perfected. Celebrate their efforts and increasing mastery over their body.
If you are worried about your baby’s growth, make an appointment or drop in to your local child health centre. Every baby is a unique mix of genetics and individual factors which influence their own pattern or growth. Although it can be very tempting to compare with other babies of the same age, there is little to be gained from this.
You will find your baby finds and picks up the smallest bits of fluff and dirt from now on. They will be like a radar, zeroing in on particles so small you’ll wonder just how they located them. Which is why you are going to need to be extra vigilant when it comes to ensuring your household is baby safe. Check the kidsafe website for some great ideas. Go to your local hardware and review the range of safety gadgets.
Make sure heavy furniture is secure and items like televisions, pot plants, bookcases and tables cannot be dislodged and cause potential harm. Get into the habit now of locking up medicines and using safety catches on cupboards where you store cleaning and toxic products. Doing this early will mean you have well developed patterns of behaviour for when your baby is really at the exploring age. Don’t leave it too late.
Try not to overwhelm your baby with too much choice when it comes to toys. A few well chosen, bright, colourful and safe toys can be better than having an overflowing toy box which never sees the light of day.
Expect your baby to place everything in their mouth and chew and chomp as they explore the world with their mouth. Your feet and ankles, shoes and even the family pet are all likely to be sucked or chewed on. If your baby has teeth, this oral fixation may even be little more exaggerated. Try not to see your baby’s biting as a deliberate intent to harm you or others. They are incapable at this young age of linking cause and effect so you will just need to be careful and try to predict if they are about to bite.
Your baby will be so adorable now that you may find yourself thinking about having another baby. Alternately you may find yourself making the most of every day, knowing this could be your last. Many parents feel a sense of sadness around this age when their baby seems to be growing up so quickly. Make time, everyday to just sit and enjoy your little one. You will hear this said a lot and it is likely you will always find some reason to put it off. But as your baby becomes older, you will remember that you did this and be glad of it.
It will be the physical, daily, repetitive grind of parenting which fatigues you now. Preparing solid food will be another task to achieve in your busy day, so will cleaning up the high chair and the slightly nagging, constant feeling that you need to constantly check if your baby is ok.
When they are safely asleep in their cot you will breathe a sigh of relief. Use this time to feed your own needs and “top-up” your own reserves. Try not to deprive yourself – your baby will not thank you for this and going without, for long periods of time can lead to resentment and anger. Consider your own needs and feelings as being equally important as everyone else’s in the family.
It is common for the primary caregiver to not see themselves as being a separate individual to their baby, because you are so connected and attached to them it may be difficult for you to maintain your own sense of identity and self awareness. This is a common, but not well discussed issue of early parenting. If you have always valued your independence and maintained a strong sense of self, this can be a challenging time.
Speak with your partner about how you feel and others who you feel would understand. Counselling can be very effective in helping to develop skills and gain a better understanding of why we feel as we do.
Your baby is likely to be sleeping for longer periods overnight now, giving you a chance to do the same yourself. If they are still in your room, you could find they are ultra sensitive to your presence. The safest place for them to sleep will still be in their own cot in your room but you may need to experiment with the layout of the room so they can’t see you so clearly. At 8 months, being able to see something but not be able to get to it is cause for some pretty impressive protests.
If you find you cannot sleep when you have the opportunity, think about your bedroom environment. Although our bedrooms should be a type of sanctuary, away from the hustle and bustle of the rest of the house, the reality is that with a baby to share it with, this tends not to happen. Baskets of washing, piles of clothing, toys, and assorted household items tend to find their way into parent’s bedrooms. If you can, clear away some of the mess and find new spots for it somewhere else. When the rest of the house is in chaos it’s important to escape from it into a de-cluttered zone.
You are likely to be so engrossed in your baby that it becomes difficult to find time to consider others just now. Avoid feeling you need to apologise for not considering everyone’s feelings. Nature has designed parents, especially mothers, to be preoccupied with their babies so that their chances of survival are optimised.
Give into Mother Nature and be assured, that other adults usually have the skills and means to satisfy their own needs, at least temporarily.